Young would-be Tgirls ask my advice all the time. I’m happy to help. It makes me feel good…except it also makes me feel old!
Often the questions are all about “passing.” These questioners generally look like drag queens. What gives them away, paradoxically, are their attempts to be ultra-femme.
But the sad fact is that dainty jewelry and long hair, for example, just accentuate the masculine. The contrast is too sharp — drawing attention to rugged hands, thick neck, or whatever the very traits you’re trying so hard (too hard!) to disguise.
Only now, after countless facial feminization procedures, do I even dare to wear my hair long. But there’s nothing I can do, alas, about my unfortunate hands, so lots of clunky bracelets and rings remain my preferred adornment.